Are We Killing Our Children's Free Will?

As I begun to write this article it weighed heavily on me as these are matters that are close, dear and near to my heart. Brevity is key here, however the importance of this matter was far to demanding to dismiss. I'll be as concise as possible. The Millennium's generation Y, born 1977-1998 is experiencing family breakdown. To be precise the age group 12-18 is not given the opportunity of free will and expression of self. Family values, morals are still relevant also who and or what has raised your child. When you find out your child is drinking, smoking pot, having sex or what they call is non-sexual (oral), with the same sex or heterosexual these are all influenced by the who's and the what's raising your children. How its viewed and the emphasis we attach determines its power. Have we failed at understanding this generation? Becoming spiritual hypocrites and completely disassociating ourselves and our hidden experiences from this "New Generation", yet at one point we all were a "New Generation", to the previous one past. Are we self absorbed workaholics, working to give them better and not raise them better?Ultimately our survival instincts and uninformed, uneducated misconceptions has caused generational tension & friction. In comparison to the informal, arrogant, whining, digital savvy, lacking structure and supervision generation. We raise questions to their identities, we place attention on areas that may require their own growth or hopes they will grow out of. We tell them not to drink /smoke, but we leave them to be entertained by those who do. We want them to speak up and out, but we are silenced and don't speak careful without judgement, kindness, or objectively. We don't place ourselves in & out of the conversations we engage them in. We must pay attention and listen, because theirs and our silence is killing our children's free will. We are forced to change or they will not approach us with topics that are near and dear to them. Let's save them from us, lets turn on the basement lights only to find~ "dirty clothes" and not dead moments.